Wednesday, October 22, 2008

The DARK Side of Gender Equality in Music

When first exposed to R&B I had a violent reaction. I cringed, blanched and immediately changed the station. Many moons have passed but my reaction hasn't evolved at all. I sure hope LL Cool J can sleep at night.

But there's an exception to every rule and one finally seeped in - Ne-Yo's Miss Independent. I like the message and giggling at his cheesy lyrics:

Cause she work like a boss, play like a boss
car and a crib she bout to pay em both off
and her bills are paid on time

I love that he's prizing a responsible woman instead of the standard video vixen - or Lil Kim ;)

So a few weeks pass and I'm busily priding myself on being open minded when I hear Beyonce's "If I were a Boy." Now Beyonce is arguably one of the most beautiful women in the world. No one needs to imagine her as a boy - especially her husband Jay Z (who now needs No Homo gear).

The song posits that if she were a man she'd be more sensitive to women. The downside is the message is buried halfway through the song - after lyrics like:

If I were a boy
Even just for a day
I’d roll out of bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted and go
Drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls

I just can't handle it. I admire Ne-Yo's message and hope it reaches folks...but Beyonce? I get that she's trying a new way of telling guys to care for women but there has to be a better way!


Sharon Rose said...

Yaay, go Ne-Yo!!